A priest once told the story of a little boy who wanted to talk to his newborn baby brother alone. As the parents watched from the doorway they heard the five-year-old say to his brother, “Tell me about God…I’m starting to forget.” And that’s how I sometimes feel about marriage. Five years out of my […]

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up – A Book Review

Marie Kondo has taken the planet by storm with her New York Times best seller, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up; The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. And lest you think this topic doesn’t pertain to you, keep reading. With the litmus test of “does this item spark joy in my life?” coupled with a […]


While I often write about the grief journey of divorce, there are certainly blessings along the path as well. It is a well-worn paradox that great joy and great suffering coexist. I feel immense gratitude for the few, good men who have captured my heart along the way. Besides the intoxicating feelings of new love […]

Growing Pains

I’m honored to introduce my guest blogger this week, Julia Friou. She is 18 years old, a freshman at UNC-Chapel Hill, and my oldest daughter. Here is her take on her first three months away at school, in her own words. It’s either sadness or euphoria. Profound loneliness or immense ecstasy. For me, move-in day […]

Big Magic – A Book Review

In Elizabeth Gilbert’s latest undertaking, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, she jumps right in with the big question on which she believes all creative living hinges: “Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you?” Gulp. Introducing the essential ingredients for creating big magic in our lives – courage, […]

City Habitat

If we’d stayed on the path I began carving out at the start of the year, my youngest daughter and I would be living in New York City right now. We would be fresh-faced and ready (or not) for round three. She’d be back at her beloved school, reunited with friends from 3rd grade, and […]


“There is no real conversation without vulnerability,” says poet, author and lecturer David Whyte. What comes to mind when you see or hear the word vulnerable? A newborn baby? A hatching turtle on the beach at midnight? Pitching a progressive idea to your curmudgeon boss? Saying I love you for the first time? Whatever the […]