My 12 Days on Match

Originally posted on It is Solved by Walking:
I signed up for Match.com in January of 2011 at the absolute insistence of my friend, Jennifer. Divorced for three years, she knew a little something about how hard it was to meet people when all your friends are married. I had been separated for eight months…

If You’re a Shiksa and You Know It, Clap Your Hands

A few years ago I saw the off-Broadway show The Last Five Years. It was about the dissolution of a five-year relationship, including marriage, told from two perspectives: one in chronological order and the other in reverse. Cathy, a struggling actress, tells the story starting at the end of the marriage while her husband Jamie, […]

You Never Write

Sometimes a person, place or experience is so colossal that we try to tame it with words. What you can name you can own, and what you can own you can control. Forget that control is an illusion…we humans ultimately don’t buy it. Except when we do. Which is precious and rare – and a lifetime’s […]

A Thin Place

He had Clark Gable’s smile. On my fourth day of walking the Camino, in the obscure village of Molinaseca, I happened upon a most unusual creature. Neither fellow pilgrim nor local, he was an American in Spain on business. His shoes were a dead giveaway.

My BFF, TED

There is an old saying that suggests the difference between who you are now and who you are five years from now comes down to the people you meet and the books you read. Everyone: meet TED. Ted.com is a house of brilliance. In it you will find a smorgasbord of 18-minute talks on a […]

What is Love?

What is it about the L word? And the closely related phrase “I love you” — which can be anywhere from the sweetest words ever heard to the absolute kiss of death, if unrequited. People either long to hear it, long to say it or long to feel it. Others will do whatever it takes […]

My 12 Days on Match

I signed up for Match.com in January of 2011 at the absolute insistence of my friend, Jennifer. Divorced for three years, she knew a little something about how hard it was to meet people when all your friends are married. I had been separated for eight months at the time and was eager to date. […]