It’s All Greek To Me

What is the one thing you don’t want people to know about you? One of my biggest sources of shame is having not been asked to join a sorority when I was in college. I am both ashamed to tell the story, and ashamed of my shame over something as frivolous as being left out […]


While I often write about the grief journey of divorce, there are certainly blessings along the path as well. It is a well-worn paradox that great joy and great suffering coexist. I feel immense gratitude for the few, good men who have captured my heart along the way. Besides the intoxicating feelings of new love […]

Waiting to Exhale

As I prepare to take my oldest daughter to college in less than two weeks, I find myself both grateful and grieved, but not for the reasons I was expecting. I’m equally proud as punch and bracing for impact, like many parents out there, but also find myself melancholy about not being able to share […]


There was a time when I thought I wanted to be a divorce coach. Already a professional coach helping clients with career issues, including transitions, it hit me about a year after my separation that I was being called to help people with divorce. I intentionally did not pursue the path of divorce coach. I […]

Domestic Partners

Call it semantics, wishful thinking or whitewashing but, as I mentioned in a previous blog, I consider myself divorced to the father of my children instead of divorced from him. Long before my separation, I happened to hear an interview with Fergie and this is how she referenced her former husband, Prince Andrew. I was […]

Ah, Grief

Loss demands so much of us. I learned not to judge grief in a bereavement group I joined after my second miscarriage back in 1996. Having only just miscarried and only just during the first trimester, I didn’t feel worthy sitting among couples who’d endured what I saw as big ticket tragedies like stillbirth and […]

Rebuilding After the Big D (And I Don’t Mean Dallas)

While there are many facets to putting life back together after divorce or a big break up, one of the most important involves the F-word. Yes, forgiveness. Of both self and other, and typically this means mostly other. Holding on to what went wrong, how you were wronged, how he/she made you do it – whatever […]